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Created on 2004-09-29 06:10:52 (#4684816), never updated
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Basic Info| Name: | Chloe |
|---|---|
| Birthdate: | 03-10 |
| Location: | Somerville, Massachusetts, United States |
BioThis journal is a place set aside for me to discuss my thoughts and experiences in the world of BDSM- that's Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. Some people will say B&D, S&M, or D&S, but I prefer to use the whole acronym because all of these components have a place in my sexual orientation.
BDSM takes up a huge amount of space in my life. I make a living as a professional dominatrix, at a fully equipped dungeon in the Boston area. In addition to that, I'm in a monogamous relationship which includes a lot of BDSM play, as a precursor to sex and sometimes just for itself. In my personal life I am the submissive, the borderline masochist, the bottom, my boyfriend is the top. I should note here that I'm not, and would never be, in a "master/slave" or "24/7" BDSM relationship- we consider ourselves egalitarian partners, we don't live together, and I have exactly the opposite of a submissive personality. But I do use the term "lifestyle player" at times to describe myself, partially because this is my career, and because submission to the right person and under the right circumstances is a deep and driving need in me. It's my outlet, my catharsis, and it's something I give as a gift to the person that I love. We definitely do things which are considered "heavy BDSM" by some, it's very emotional for both of us, and we do take it out of the bedroom here and there. I do not submit professionally or to anyone other than my partner.
I'm also an avid reader and writer, and I take a very psychological approach to BDSM- I like to analyze everthing, and I believe it is a form of therapy. Understanding sexuality, both mine and others, is my passion and my niche. I realized that I need a place to write about specifically this, where I wouldn't have to be filtering entries heavily like I do on my other journal. This journal is being kept as anonymous as possible- if you're one of my friends and you know me, please do not use either my real name or my domme name in any comments, and please do not identify me in conjunction with this journal in any forum. While I don't keep BDSM a big secret in my life, I have privacy needs to protect on the internet.
For now, I'm not filtering entries or making anything friends only, except pictures if I end up posting any, which would of course only be accessible to those who know me in real life. Unlike on my other journal, I'm happy to add pretty much anyone who adds me as a friend- I'm really into the idea of people reading this and maybe learning things they didn't know about BDSM, people who aren't neccesarily involved with it themselves. I plan to do a lot of explaining which would probably be redundant to experienced players, anyway.
If you're on an anti-BDSM crusade, go bother someone else. This isn't really intended to be a discussion forum, and if you're just here to tell me that I'm a pervert or a sicko or a bad feminist, I'll just delete your comments. While I value intellectual debate, that's not the purpose of this journal, and I don't have time to argue on the internet. However, people are absolutely welcome to post questions, which I'll do my best to answer.
Enjoy!
BDSM takes up a huge amount of space in my life. I make a living as a professional dominatrix, at a fully equipped dungeon in the Boston area. In addition to that, I'm in a monogamous relationship which includes a lot of BDSM play, as a precursor to sex and sometimes just for itself. In my personal life I am the submissive, the borderline masochist, the bottom, my boyfriend is the top. I should note here that I'm not, and would never be, in a "master/slave" or "24/7" BDSM relationship- we consider ourselves egalitarian partners, we don't live together, and I have exactly the opposite of a submissive personality. But I do use the term "lifestyle player" at times to describe myself, partially because this is my career, and because submission to the right person and under the right circumstances is a deep and driving need in me. It's my outlet, my catharsis, and it's something I give as a gift to the person that I love. We definitely do things which are considered "heavy BDSM" by some, it's very emotional for both of us, and we do take it out of the bedroom here and there. I do not submit professionally or to anyone other than my partner.
I'm also an avid reader and writer, and I take a very psychological approach to BDSM- I like to analyze everthing, and I believe it is a form of therapy. Understanding sexuality, both mine and others, is my passion and my niche. I realized that I need a place to write about specifically this, where I wouldn't have to be filtering entries heavily like I do on my other journal. This journal is being kept as anonymous as possible- if you're one of my friends and you know me, please do not use either my real name or my domme name in any comments, and please do not identify me in conjunction with this journal in any forum. While I don't keep BDSM a big secret in my life, I have privacy needs to protect on the internet.
For now, I'm not filtering entries or making anything friends only, except pictures if I end up posting any, which would of course only be accessible to those who know me in real life. Unlike on my other journal, I'm happy to add pretty much anyone who adds me as a friend- I'm really into the idea of people reading this and maybe learning things they didn't know about BDSM, people who aren't neccesarily involved with it themselves. I plan to do a lot of explaining which would probably be redundant to experienced players, anyway.
If you're on an anti-BDSM crusade, go bother someone else. This isn't really intended to be a discussion forum, and if you're just here to tell me that I'm a pervert or a sicko or a bad feminist, I'll just delete your comments. While I value intellectual debate, that's not the purpose of this journal, and I don't have time to argue on the internet. However, people are absolutely welcome to post questions, which I'll do my best to answer.
Enjoy!
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